We used to sing this simple song in church. Perhaps you remember it?

Brokenness, brokenness, is what I long for. Brokenness is what I need. Brokenness, brokenness, is what you want for me, O Lord, O Lord. So take my heart and form it, take my mind transform it, take my willl conform it, to yours, to yours, O Lord. 

I say 'used to' only because I can't remember the last time I heard it sung. Broken isn't the bullseye the world tells us to aim for. 

Perhaps that is our problem.